Continuing on the past

Past post that is. I never got back to dishing on my observations on the last few weeks worth of pre-date dates, alas the dreaded text "conversations", and above all always preferred phone calls and actual dates. Gotta love and hate dating. Where do I start? I guess I'll start with the instant ego boost that I've received in knowing that there are guys out there who are attracted to me. I know I'm beautiful inside and out but it's always nice to hear it from the opposite sex every once in a while. All of these men are attracted to my voice and each have used the word sexy to describe it. Nice! I remember a former male friend telling me my voice is extra sexy when I'm sick. I may just have to use my voice to do paid phone sex or something if I can't land a job. Just kidding! Maybe. LOL. Anyway let's start with the duds...Lenard and Darren. Both of these guys started off with extending a pre-date date to me...you know..the coffee shop meet and greets where they want to screen women before deciding if we are worth an actual meal or anything beyond a four dollar latte at Starbucks. Now don't get me wrong, I don't believe a man has to spend a fortune on a date but I still do believe they should be asking us out on reasonable dates...no matter what's going on with the economy. I hate that some men use the excuse that they don't want to "waste" money on meeting women they feel won't work out. In my opinion, what makes these guys think we women find that logic attractive? I don't. To me it says that your money supposedly trumps our time. And what about using some creativity to block off an hour of time? Why must everything revolve around Starbucks? With Darren, we met up at a bar and we had a drink but he came across kind of timid to me. He was so worried about office layoffs even though he knew for a fact that he wasn't going to be one of the causalities. He also had 18 years in with a major company. It kind of made me silently laugh. In my head I was thinking here's this guy who doesn't seem financially responsible even though he had all the stability over the years and he's panicking. Me, on the other hand, being penniless and currently unemployed, while not worry free, was not panicking over the unknown. Needless to say I didn't order a second drink when he asked the bartender how much it would be. Darren proceeded to call and text over two weeks, asked me out on a Saturday date, then texted, not called me, to cancel the Saturday date due to finances. What is with these guys and texting. Men should believe me when I say that they are not as important as they would like to believe. We women are worth the phone call. It's called respect.

Next...Lenard. We ended up never meeting. He cancelled on our Starbucks date because I wouldn't tell him my last name. This guy came across highly intelligent. He definitely was able to carry his end of a conversation yet he seemed like he was hiding something. I remember asking him how he makes his living and his response was "family funds". He even asked me if I was in law enforcement since according to him I asked all the right follow up questions to his responses on whatever we were talking about. Who knows if this guy was legit or not but I'm glad we didn't meet since he was coming across like a controlling type of dude. I seem to attract the weirdos. LOL. The sad part about some of these men is that they are all over 40. Now I can see why.

Midweek I went out with Maurice. He's one of the very few who asked me out on a real first date. We actually had a great time. Went to one of the many restaurants in Williamsburg, had a good meal and for the most part good conversation, went for a walk around the neighborhood afterwards, and then he dropped me home. Not sure yet where he's coming from since he's sending out mixed signals. He says he's looking for relationship but at certain points made subtle sexual references when it came time to order "dessert". While as a woman I feel honored to be physically desired also, I don't want men being that obvious on the first few dates. That's always a turnoff for me since to me its saying that "you only want me for sex" but I'm not going to jump to any conclusions since we have only gone out once. We'll see where this goes since we have another date this week.

Last but not least there's another Len. Just getting to the phone "tell me about yourself" stage so let's see what happens there. Hard to keep these guys straight. Ha Ha. Well, what can I say except we women have to date like the men and make sure to not put all our eggs in one basket.

Some might wonder why date now especially. I guess you could say I have some additional time on my hands. Why not? When I start working again, I think I may end up following the cue of all these men out here who use work as an excuse. I'll just throw myself into work and perhaps not resurface for dating anymore. Only time will tell what happens. Single, married, kids, no kids...who the hell knows what will happen in my future. All I know is that I have no regrets on anything and I feel good with all the highs and lows of my life. In my autobiography, many will read just how interesting my life really was or is. OK. better go. I think I want a cup of hot chocolate on this rainy night. More tomorrow. I do have a comment on Fox's new reality show "More to Love". What is this...pick on fat folks week? See you in the AM.